How to Be Lucky: The Secret of Becoming a Lucky Person

Have you ever heard someone say, "I'm just not a lucky person"?

I know I have, and if I'm honest, I have probably said it about myself a few times over the years too.

Sometimes it can feel like life just isn't quite going your way. You miss an opportunity, something doesn't work out, or you seem to be having one of those weeks where everything is harder than it should be. Before you know it, you've convinced yourself that you're unlucky.

But what if that isn't actually true?

What if becoming a lucky person has less to do with what happens to you and more to do with what you choose to focus on?

This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently, and it has completely changed the way I look at luck.

What Made Me Think About Luck Differently?

I didn't actually come up with this idea myself.

Recently, I was reading the book Get Rich Lucky Bitch by Denise Duffield-Thomas. There were lots of things in the book that resonated with me, but one idea in particular really stuck.

She talks about luck, opportunities, and the way some people seem to attract good things into their lives. She also touches on what many people now call "lucky girl syndrome".

Now, whether you believe in that idea or not, it got me thinking.

I started wondering how much of luck is actually about what we notice.

How often do we tell ourselves we're unlucky and then spend our days collecting evidence to support that belief?

And if that's what we're doing, what would happen if we started telling ourselves the opposite?

Your Brain Notices What You Tell It To

One thing I find fascinating about the brain is that it is constantly filtering information.

Think about it.

There are thousands of things happening around you every single day, yet your brain decides which things are important enough to bring to your attention.

Have you ever noticed that when you're thinking about buying a certain car, you suddenly start seeing it everywhere?

Try it this week.

Let's say a red Skoda.

Before reading this article, you probably weren't paying much attention to red Skodas. Now, I wouldn't be surprised if you notice several over the next few days.

The interesting thing is that those cars were always there.

Your brain just wasn't looking for them.

Luck works in a very similar way.

If you constantly tell yourself that you're unlucky, you'll notice every inconvenience, every setback, and every disappointment. Those moments become proof that you're right.

But if you start telling yourself that you're a lucky person, your brain begins looking for evidence of that instead.

Suddenly, you'll notice all the little things that go right.

The Small Moments We Usually Ignore

When people think about luck, they often imagine winning the lottery or stumbling across some life-changing opportunity.

But most luck doesn't look like that.

Sometimes luck is finding a parking space exactly when you need one.

Sometimes it's running into someone who gives you a great piece of advice.

Sometimes it's receiving a message from a friend on a day when you really needed it.

Sometimes it's simply having a beautiful sunny day when you had plans outdoors.

These aren't huge, dramatic moments.

They're small things.

But when you start noticing them, they add up.

The more you notice them, the more you reinforce the idea that good things are happening around you all the time.

What Happens When You Start Thinking Like a Lucky Person?

Imagine waking up tomorrow morning and deciding that today is going to be a lucky day.

Nothing else changes.

You still have the same responsibilities, the same job, the same schedule and the same challenges.

The only difference is the way you approach the day.

Now, when something positive happens, you're more likely to notice it. You might think:

"That was lucky." And then you'll remember: "Of course it was. I'm a lucky person."

It sounds simple, but these small thoughts have a powerful effect over time.

You begin to expect good things.

You become more optimistic.

You feel more confident.

You become more open to opportunities because you're no longer expecting things to go wrong all the time.

Does This Mean Bad Things Won't Happen?

Absolutely not.

Life is still life.

Things will go wrong.

Plans will fall through.

You'll have difficult days.

You'll make mistakes.

Being a lucky person doesn't mean that bad things never happen to you.

It means you don't build your identity around those moments.

Instead of keeping a mental list of everything that went wrong, you start paying more attention to what went right.

Over time, that changes the story you tell yourself about your life.

How to Start Feeling Luckier This Week

If you want to experiment with this idea, try these three simple steps.

1. Start Your Day With One Thought

When you wake up tomorrow morning, tell yourself:

"I am a lucky person."

You don't need to fully believe it yet.

Just try it.

2. Look for Evidence

Throughout the day, pay attention to anything positive that happens.

It doesn't matter how small it is.

Maybe your train arrives on time.

Maybe someone lets you go ahead of them in a queue.

Maybe you find exactly what you're looking for.

Notice it.

Acknowledge it.

Let it count.

3. Stop Collecting Evidence of Bad Luck

When something doesn't go your way, try not to add it to a growing list of reasons why you're unlucky.

Acknowledge it and move on.

Remember that one setback doesn't define your entire life.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can you actually become a lucky person?

You can't control everything that happens in life, but you can control what you focus on. People who consider themselves lucky often notice more opportunities and positive moments around them.

Why do some people seem luckier than others?

Often it's because they expect good things to happen. That mindset can make them more confident, more open to opportunities, and more likely to recognise positive experiences.

Is lucky girl syndrome real?

Different people have different opinions on this. However, the idea behind it is that focusing on positive outcomes can change the way you think, feel, and behave.

Final Thoughts

Maybe the secret to being a lucky person isn't that lucky people have better lives than everyone else.

Maybe it's that they notice more of the good things that are already there.

The more I think about it, the more I believe that luck isn't always about what happens to us.

Sometimes it's about what we choose to pay attention to.

So why not try it for a week?

Start telling yourself you're a lucky person.

Look for evidence that it's true.

You might be surprised by how much luck has been around you all along.

Do you think you're a lucky person? Or are you someone who has always considered themselves unlucky?

I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments.